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		<title>Why a 4.0 GPA won&#8217;t get you into Stanford</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Mar 2009 20:07:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>John Dorian Chang</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[First, there's absolutely no need <strong>to freak out</strong> if you're not the valedictorian or salutatorian of your high school.]]></description>
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<div class="byline" style="font-style:italic;">by John Dorian Chang</div>
<p>First, there&#8217;s absolutely no need <strong>to freak out</strong> if you&#8217;re not the <a class="zem_slink" title="Valedictorian" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valedictorian" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">valedictorian</a> or <a class="zem_slink" title="Salutatorian" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salutatorian" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">salutatorian</a> of your <a class="zem_slink" title="High school" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High_school" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">high school</a>.</p>
<p>Did you know that the <strong>majority of students admitted</strong> to <a class="zem_slink" title="Harvard University" rel="geolocation" href="http://maps.google.com/maps?ll=42.3744444444,-71.1169444444&amp;spn=1.0,1.0&amp;q=42.3744444444,-71.1169444444%20%28Harvard%20University%29&amp;t=h" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/maps.google.com');">Harvard</a> and Stanford aren&#8217;t valedictorian, either?</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s what you need to know about your <a href="http://www.hopelesstoharvard.com" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/www.hopelesstoharvard.com');" target="_blank">high school GPA and class rank to get into any Ivy League school</a>:</p>
<p>1) It&#8217;s <strong>ok to have a poor <a class="zem_slink" title="Student" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Student" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">freshman year</a> GPA</strong>. What&#8217;s important is to show an UPWARD TREND &#8211; improvement over time</p>
<p>2) As important as your GPA is <strong>your transcript and the classes you take</strong>. Be sure to take the HARDEST CLASSES AVAILABLE &#8211; APs, IB, etc</p>
<p>3) Make your junior year count. <strong>It&#8217;s the one that Admissions Committees focus the most on</strong> &#8211; you want your best grades in this year</p>
<p>4) <strong>Don&#8217;t forget about your <a class="zem_slink" title="SAT" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SAT" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">SAT</a> score</strong>. It counts as much (and sometimes even more) than your high school grades</p>
<p>5) As long as <strong>you&#8217;re in the top 5% of your high school class</strong>, you&#8217;ll be fine &#8211; this varies by school so if you&#8217;re at an easy school, the bar will be higher</p>
<p>By no means am I recommending you do just the BARE MINIMUM. <strong>You should always aim to be valedictorian</strong>.</p>
<p>I went through this process awhile back and was accepted to 6 Ivy League schools and Stanford, so I speak from experience about this process. I wrote a book on <a href="http://www.hopelesstoharvard.com/guide" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/www.hopelesstoharvard.com');" target="_blank">college admissions tips called Hopeless to Harvard</a>.</p>
<p>Follow my 5 critical steps above, and you&#8217;ll be a strong candidate. Focus your energies on your passions &#8211; whether that&#8217;s sports, science, or social studies.</p>
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<div class="links">I was a B+ student who got into Harvard, Princeton, and Stanford. <strong>Hopeless To Harvard</strong> is my insider&#8217;s guide to how <strong>you can do it too</strong>. Click here to get <a href="http://www.hopelesstoharvard.com" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/www.hopelesstoharvard.com');">college admissions advice</a>. Discover <a href="http://www.hopelesstoharvard.com/guide" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/www.hopelesstoharvard.com');">how to get into Harvard and Stanford</a> now!</div>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 15 Mar 2009 16:02:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rashel Dan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Whether a parent admits it or not, he or she will need babysitting services at some point.  In order to keep oneself mentally and emotionally healthy, it is important that parents get some quality time for themselves.  hatever your circumstance, you want to be certain your loved ones are well taken care off in your absence. A babysitter can be of huge assistance, as long as you hire an individual who is experienced, mature, reliable and who genuinely cares about the well-being of your children.]]></description>
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<p>Secret To Finding A Good Baby Sitter</p>
<p>The major concern is finding a qualified babysitter. Begin your search as soon as possible. If you put it off until the last minute, you may overlook some very important factors, which can possibly lead to your kids being with an unreliable and even dangerous person. So if you are planning on a short trip with your spouse for instance, make sure you prioritize searching for a trusted and professional sitter way ahead of time.</p>
<p>One of the best options is to find a reputable agency that offers several options for very busy parents. For instance, there are good online agencies out there that offer options for those who need quick babysitter services for the mean time. If you already trust an agency, chances are you will be able to trust the babysitter they have in their database.</p>
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<p>The internet can also be a very helpful tool. Conduct a search with a reputable online agency. You should be able to find qualified sitters in your area. The agency should provide a database of pre-screened babysitters. It is recommended that you hire certified sitters who have had classes run by your local Red Cross or YMCA. Remember, babysitter services with an insurance bond will cover particular damages or losses to your property, however, not generally to protect your kids in any way. Find out if the babysitter service performs criminal history background checks and screens the sitters in their database or staff.</p>
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<p>Ask what is already provided in the resume, but also to expound on the details. Basic inquiries such as past experiences, training, certifications and fees are a given. Ask situational questions, such as, what would you do? Finally, conduct trials and be around to observe.</p>
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<div class="byline" style="font-style:italic;">by charlie reese</div>
<p>There are some surely well meaning people, who think that teen <a class="zem_slink" title="Abstinence" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abstinence" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">abstinence</a> is a concept that this raging hormone group will adopt, just because it&#8217;s what they&#8217;re told to do. If they won&#8217;t clean their room, what makes you think they&#8217;re going to accept the teen abstinence directive? It&#8217;s like asking a bird not to fly, a dog not to bark or the wind to cease. If you think this will work, then you are the one with your head in the sand. Ostriches don&#8217;t fly, BTW. So, what works?</p>
<p>Educating teens is the answer. Remember, this is the age group that disputes the necessity of almost everything that&#8217;s good for them! However, this doesn&#8217;t mean that a few salient facts won&#8217;t get through. Guilt may be induced through moral avenues of argument, but there are some hard-hitting facts and reasons that will give them pause, when nothing else does.</p>
<p>Moral and religious arguments may carry some weight while you&#8217;re talking, but in the heat of the moment, kids are not thinking of that chat. This is where the concept of teen abstinence is about the furthest idea from their mind. It&#8217;s not that kids don&#8217;t want to go along with the idea, they simply don&#8217;t have the discipline, experience or inclination.</p>
<p>A more practical approach yields a better measure of success. For example, some parents are reluctant to talk to their teens about sexual matters. They don&#8217;t know how to bring up the subject naturally. There are websites which give parents ideas on how to talk to kids about sex. Take a look at some of these and find an approach which is comfortable for you and your child.</p>
<p>A fact-finding perspective can be most valuable. You may cringe at the thought of talking about <a class="zem_slink" title="Sexually transmitted disease" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexually_transmitted_disease" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">STDs</a>, <a class="zem_slink" title="AIDS" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/AIDS" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">AIDS</a> and <a class="zem_slink" title="Teenage pregnancy" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teenage_pregnancy" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">teenage pregnancy</a>. This is an outdated attitude. However unfortunate, kids know all about the sexual mores actually in practice, from their classmates. Teen culture doesn&#8217;t have a lot of adherents to teen abstinence. This is <a class="zem_slink" title="The blind leading the blind" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_blind_leading_the_blind" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">the blind leading the blind</a>.</p>
<p>Today, there are a number of sexually transmitted diseases which can cause problems for a lifetime. According to current statistics, fully 20% of our population is afflicted with herpes! While medication is available to help manage this disease, there are significant risks associated with taking the medication, with no guarantee of not infecting their partner. AIDS is incurable and can be transmitted through a single <a class="zem_slink" title="Human sexual behavior" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_sexual_behavior" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">sexual encounter</a>. As for pregnancy, a teen is simply not emotionally equipped to be a parent &#8221; not yet. If you talk to your <a class="zem_slink" title="Adolescence" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adolescence" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">teenager</a> on a purely practical level, it won&#8217;t be hard to convince them that life will change radically and for their lifetime.</p>
<p>You may be shocked to know that most teens can relate to the responsibilities and constraints parenthood presents. More than likely, they know someone who is a teenage parent and are well aware of how that friend&#8217;s life is changed by an imprudent moment and lack of discipline.</p>
<p>Promoting teen abstinence requires that you, the parent, get a <a class="zem_slink" title="Reality" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reality" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">reality</a> check. Do a little research and lay it all out for them to digest. Kids do have common sense. It&#8217;s up to you to structure the facts so that it&#8217;s irrefutable, morals and <a class="zem_slink" title="Religion" rel="wikipedia" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Religion" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/en.wikipedia.org');">religion</a> notwithstanding. Now the issue of teen abstinence still inserts the moral or religious element, with an indisputable host of real-life reasons that stick.</p>
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<div class="links">Charlie Reese enjoys giving teen and <a href="http://www.freepsychicsight.com" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/www.freepsychicsight.com');">astrology</a> advice on his <a href="http://www.freepsychicsight.com" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview('/outbound/article/www.freepsychicsight.com');">horoscope</a> website weekly.</div>
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